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[2Shy]

October 9, 2019 at 10:54 pm #223176

Too Shy Around Girls

Hello… Every time I see a girl and want to talk to her, I am too shy and stay quiet. If a girl talks to me, I freeze.
I can’t even tell this girl that sits next to me in class that she is so beautiful because I’m too shy 🙁
I’m almost 20 and still don’t know how to talk to girls and am too shy.
I don’t know what to do…….

[breby]

October 10, 2019 at 5:47 am #223180

I often think it’s a baptism of fire… But once you’ve talked to one girl it gets easier and easier. Once you’ve talked to a couple girls you’ll suddenly realise it was nothing to worry about. Keep the convo light and general though… 😉

[LiefO]

October 11, 2019 at 12:43 am #223257

1. You are not too shy. Discontinue programing false ideas into your own head. Fools rush in… look it up.
2. There are different views in this area, but generally, primates respond to ‘The Unknown’ / threats in four general ways ( this may change as researchers revise their thinking all the time ).
A- Scream and Attack.
B- Scream and Panic.
C- Turn and Run for the hills.
D- Freeze and go stealthy.
It seems that evolution has determined that this range of responses best promotes the survival of a species. An extroverted response might act as a distraction for those who run – to escape and evade. The panic response will definitely distract. A return of attention or force or energy extends the interaction – for good or ill. Freezing is a good way to learn by observation.
An other view might be that the speed of your thinking or the time you have spent in a half-aware fashion contemplating this person has developed expectations of reward and/or the potential risk of disappointment.

[LiefO]

October 11, 2019 at 12:57 am #223258

To continue…
So, expect nothing. Just say “Hi”, smile and touch the very tip of your tongue to the roof of your mouth. This will aid in relaxing your face if you let your jaw drop while keeping your lips together. Relaxing is good!
Do NOT compliment her ( her person, her beauty, her cuteness, her desirability ) directly. Admire her fashion sense, her hat, her footwear, her electronic device, her glasses, her question in class, her choice of food,…
DO NOT TALK POLITICS! Inquire of her reading and movie preferences, personal investment in the Marvel Movie Universe – avoid volunteering information about yourself. If she asks a question about yourself – ANSWER BRIEFLY! No more that two sentences – short ones!
What will happen is that other girls will see that you can talk – this will spread like wildfire.

[2Shy]

October 11, 2019 at 10:48 pm #223349

Bet these 2 “girls” are bots…..I’ll always have trust issues…. And that’s not how you start a relationship SMH

[Briggs]

October 14, 2019 at 11:48 pm #223376

I’m like that too.

[Synergia]

October 16, 2019 at 8:43 am #223520

Reply To: Too Shy Around Girls

Let me tell you – you will never find a good girl to sleep with. None of them will want a shy guy in the bed. Do something about it.

[Synergia]

October 16, 2019 at 8:43 am #223521

You won’t get any girl in the bed, they don’t need a shy guy.

[2Shy]

October 16, 2019 at 2:28 pm #223566

Reply To: Too Shy Around Girls

Synergia wrote:

Let me tell you – you will never find a good girl to sleep with. None of them will want a shy guy in the bed. Do something about it.

Wow, that is a bitchy comment with no advice and of course an ignorant, shitty opinion. AND don’t speak for ALL girls. Not every girls is like you….Thank god for that. Like wow, I didn’t come on here to get bitchy comments from a girl like you or anyone. I came on here for advice. You wanna be bitchy, go somewhere else. Now stop replying to my post.

[Discombobulatedyes]

October 16, 2019 at 10:54 pm #223572

Reply To: Too Shy Around Girls

Pretty much in the same boat. I try to pop out of my shell with the mindset that no one really knows anyone in my classes and if it is awkward, well there’s 299 other people I can talk to.

[2Shy]

October 17, 2019 at 9:30 pm #223649

Reply To: Too Shy Around Girls

Every time I talk to a girl, I almost pass out… And on top of that, when I actually try to say something it comes out in gibberish…

[Rivens]

October 23, 2019 at 12:08 pm #223868

Reply To: Too Shy Around Girls

What helped me was meditation. When you are centered, you are confident and irresistible to women.

[IwonderWhenIsingalong]

October 24, 2019 at 12:13 am #223887

Reply To: Too Shy Around Girls

it just goes away with time, even if you feel shy, don’t hang on it, you will feel more confident the more you talk with girls.

[msjsam]

October 27, 2019 at 2:40 am #224042

Reply To: Too Shy Around Girls

just be confident about yourself and focus on the strong characteristics, don’t focus on weaknesses

[elbercito]

October 28, 2019 at 7:30 am #224073

Reply To: Too Shy Around Girls

Hi buddy, I completely understand you, I am also very shy. Once I asked a guy what was his secret and how to approach that hot girl and ultimately get a date. He said that his secret was being immune to rejection, and he explained that he constantly gets rejected by girls, but, he never gives up, and keeps trying with multiple girls until he finally somebody agrees to date him. So, I went out and I got rejected 20 times in a week, my self esteem was destroyed, I stopped for a week. I didn’t know how to start a conversation, that’s when I started getting prepared. Also, together with my friends we would challenge ourselves and bet with each other, and the one who would lose would have to go talk to a girl. This betting game helped me a lot, then I started reading some more advice online, on amazon I found this guide called “how to text your crush”, I read it, and found it interesting to know how girls think. I recommend you to read it also and just do it, don’t care about the rejection.