Need Advice on Getting the Number!

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Need Advice on Getting the Number!

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    MB313
    MB313
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    June 18, 2019 at 11:15 pm #202384
    Need Advice on Getting the Number!

    Hello beautiful people!

    It is kind of embarrassing to admit this and ask for help but I don’t have too much experience with the opposite sex. I’m a 24 yrs old and have decided to seriously try to have a girlfriend. So, at work theres this girl who I presume is younger 19 21 ish, that comes in. She works at the restaurant next door and comes in to buy a few things right before going to work. This doesn’t leave too much opportunity to talk but I know for a fact she’s interested. She initiates conversation, gets a little nervous, and other signs that am intelligent guy would pick up on. I’ve seen her come in for over a month and I feel I need to close in so I can talk to her and see if something is there.

    I’ve thought about going to her place of work but I used to work there and it’s just bad vibes. Plus the other people probably won’t leave me alone with her. What do you think is the best course of action – I don’t even know her name but I was thinking just getting name/# . thoughts?

    dashingscorpio
    dashingscorpio
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    June 20, 2019 at 9:51 pm #202550

    ” I know for a fact she’s interested…”
    If that’s true you are more than half way there.
    Since you’re older than her she probably expects you to be confident and more experienced.
    Therefore (fake it until you make it). Go to her place of work during a slow period (smile) and introduce yourself.
    Tell her you had been meaning to drop by and wanted to know if it would be okay to give her call to go out sometime…

    MB313
    MB313
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    June 20, 2019 at 10:38 pm #202552

    Thank you! Yea I was thinking about how I should ask her out without it being too pushy or quick in that little 30 second – 1 minute timeframe we talk but I always intrinsically knew I should just go over there. I just hope the other people that know me there don’t get in the way but it would be much better to have a conversation with her there and if everything goes smooth ask her out. So I plan to ask her when she gets off, they close at 11, I close at 10:15, so hopefully she’s still there, and if that goes well it’s a done deal unless I completely get nervous and blow it. Staying optimistic though! A lot of variables but I’m hoping for the best!

    flamey3212
    flamey3212
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    June 22, 2019 at 10:17 pm #202616

    Maybe try introducing yourself and asking her for it

    soopermantoo
    soopermantoo
    Participant
    August 22, 2019 at 5:47 am #205924

    Take those chances as they are presented or you will regret not

    richiro
    richiro
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    August 23, 2019 at 6:26 pm #206087

    small talk first. Does she change her order? Does she always get the same thing? Is the weather “particualrly nice” or “hot” or “cold” today?
    Small talk…bring her out of her shell.

    “oh.. going with toasted breakfast bagel today huh? taht seems to be your favorite…. its mine too.. ”
    or
    “oh… not the toasted breakfast today? being adventurous i see?”
    or
    “i noticed yo have a work badge for Company X on… i used to work there… how is the ol’ gang these edays there?”

    i dont’ know.. somethign just to stir up convo and hoepfully the convo becomes a regualr thing enough that she feels she knows yo enough (not a compelte stranger) that you can then ask her out…

    good luck.
    Richiro

    LeeVerstibule
    LeeVerstibule
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    August 29, 2019 at 5:33 pm #206384

    I had this same issue a few years ago. The girl behind the counter where I bought lunch was super friendly, she seemed to be extra nice to me which I saw as a sign that she liked me. But I could never just ask for her number there because there was always someone there, another customer or co-worker. Anyway this went on for a a while until one day I wrote my number on a piece of paper.

    Then one day I went in to buy a sandwich and we were the only two people there. I clumsily pulled the piece of paper out and just said ‘hey, can i give you my number’. She said she had a boyfriend so I said ‘ok’ and then left with the piece of paper in my hand. I realized its not a big deal. I didn’t loose anything. I had psyched myself up way too much for a what was in the end, a 20 second conversation. So my advice is just ask her anytime, because there is no right time. She might say no but that’s good information, you can move on after that. Or she may say yes.

    Oliver.Mujica
    Oliver.Mujica
    Participant
    August 30, 2019 at 5:47 pm #206450

    Smile and talk to her. Do not treat her like an object!

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    Bruh234423
    Bruh234423
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    August 31, 2019 at 8:52 am #206459
    Reply To: Need Advice on Getting the Number!

    Maybe just flirt with her and joke or somehow make her laugh and then it’ll be easy to get get number

    raydatingtips
    raydatingtips
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    August 31, 2019 at 6:39 pm #206465
    Reply To: Need Advice on Getting the Number!

    First of all, why have you not requested her number already??

    Actually, it is normal to feel a bit scared approaching aa lady especially when you like her.

    You just need to step up and do ask her for it. I would like to link to some of my posts that give real examples of ways you can talk to her but I don’t know the link policies here.

    Basically, the main thing working against you is fear!!!!!!!!!
    Overcome that and you would be able to do anything