Help me please

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Help me please

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  • Hayley Matthews Hayley Matthews
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    David1964
    David1964
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    July 11, 2019 at 12:02 pm #203574
    Help me please

    Sat on a bench a woman sits on the other end and ignores me. This happens on 3 different occasions until one day she sees me at work. I’m a Helicopter pilot and she saw me at the local Hospital flying the air ambulance. Next time on the bench she asked if I was single and did I live in one of the big local houses. I’m honest so said yes to both.

    She then sits next to me and puts her hand in mine before long I get kissed on the cheek and cuddled.

    Is it me or is she a gold digger ?

    Strangerangel
    Strangerangel
    Participant
    July 11, 2019 at 5:39 pm #203583

    Based on the above description I would say that there is a strong possibility that she may be with you only because of your job. But again there is nothing wrong with a person if they want to be with someone who has a stable job and stable finances. I think you should not rush to conclusions, wait it out see how it goes. Dont get way too emotionally involved real quick and then decide for yourself. Good Luck, I hope you find a genuine partner in life.

    dashingscorpio
    dashingscorpio
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    July 13, 2019 at 5:29 pm #203621

    Sounds like there is a good chance she is gold digger.
    However if you’re attracted to her you may as well have some fun with the situation.
    Just make sure you don’t create an unplanned pregnancy situation.
    Knowing where someone is coming from empowers you as long as you remember the truth.
    Keep your options open by dating other women.

    Ultimately everyone makes “trade offs” to get what they want.
    Men tend to strive for success and money in order to attract beautiful women.
    A lot of women focus on their appearance to attract successful men.

    Everyone wants to be with someone who has “something” going for them self.
    Everyone also has their own mate selection/screening process and “must haves list”
    The only difference between being “shallow” and having a “preference” is whether or not one experiences rejection.

    achilles529
    achilles529
    Participant
    August 9, 2019 at 8:48 am #205132

    Based on the description of your story it sounds like she’s a gold digger; but perhaps not. One day you’re just a random stranger on a bench, the next day she realizes you’re a responsible adult with an interesting and stable job. She gets more details about you so her interest changes. I think most people would be the exact same way. I may not show interest towards a random girl but then if I see that random girl in a mutual setting and find out we share similar interests then my opinion will change. I don’t think that makes someone a gold digger. The comment that is a bit concerning to me though is when she asked whether you live in one of the “big local houses.” Asking whether you live nearby is more natural; asking whether you live in a big house is prodding for information about your lifestyle.