Friend zoned twice by the same girl, I reacted emotionaly, what now?

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Friend zoned twice by the same girl, I reacted emotionaly, what now?

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    LeeVerstibule
    LeeVerstibule
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    August 29, 2019 at 6:38 pm #206387
    Friend zoned twice by the same girl, I reacted emotionaly, what now?

    I’m a photographer and met a girl, she models for me & after a while I ask her out but she rejects me, only wants to be friends. I move on but 1 year later we meet to ‘talk’. She asks if I still take photos, I say no, she seems disappointed (guess she misses this). We don’t talk about how I asked her out before.

    Another year later I’m traveling the world and she texts me, we talk briefly, then she invites me to go on a trip with her. I agree to go because I think she wants to date me now.

    On the trip I realize I’m wrong, her body language says it all, anytime I get close she pulls back.

    She soon admits she still only wants to be friends. She thinks my feelings had changed since “its was a long time ago”. I react and call her naive, I tell her I don’t want to waste chasing things I can’t have.” She says it sounds like I don’t want to be friends anymore and I say “Yes, you’re right”

    And thats where we left it, what now? What if she messages me again? How would I respond to that?

    frankt
    frankt
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    August 30, 2019 at 12:11 am #206388

    “she invites me to go on a trip with her”
    She needs to realize how that is going to be perceived by men. Every man will see that as a “date” and love interest. That was naive on her part to think otherwise.

    I would just move on. If she messages you again later on about taking pictures/modeling, tell her you are no longer are in that industry.
    Let her followup. That leaves her with 2 options. She is interested -or- she is not interested. You have taken the 3rd option picture taking/modeling off the table.

    Getting involved with clients is an area that some people try to avoid. It blurs the lines between business and relationship.

    • This reply was modified 2 weeks, 4 days ago by frankt frankt.
    Oliver.Mujica
    Oliver.Mujica
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    August 30, 2019 at 5:45 pm #206449

    She is a flake!

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