Can't figure out if he is interested in me…..after the death of my boyfriend

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Can't figure out if he is interested in me…..after the death of my boyfriend

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    HeatherT
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    September 30, 2019 at 4:03 pm #213328
    Can't figure out if he is interested in me…..after the death of my boyfriend

    My long term boyfriend died this winter, right as we were breaking up. Super tragic, and a neighbor (from a few roads over) was very helpful during the time I was mourning. And even made a point to spend time with me this summer helping with things around the house and taking me swimming. Recently the relationship turned sexual. And we are both having fun. He is younger than me by five years. Up front we both said it was a casual thing. Lately he has been bringing me presents, little rocks (which i collect) blue popcorn, wood racks for my garage. Just thoughtful little things. We also had a conversation, via a text, last week about how he thought I deserved someone better than him, that he cant give me half of what I deserve….When I asked what he said a guy with money and a house. Both things I already have. He even came and met my adult kid this last weekend. Is it all in my head? Or does he have feelings for me?

    Starfish243
    Starfish243
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    October 1, 2019 at 8:18 pm #215574

    From what I am reading I think he is definitely interested in you. But What you should really do is just straight up ask him. If you two are as close you say I think you can have an open conversation and ask what he wants

    pedroxd360
    pedroxd360
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    October 6, 2019 at 5:32 am #222988

    I’m sorry for your boyfriend.
    I think is really interested in you but is insecure about making the first move! Tell him how you feel about it and then see how he reacts!

    annasvenssoon
    annasvenssoon
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    October 7, 2019 at 6:31 pm #223048

    Tell him how you feel

    2Shy
    2Shy
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    October 9, 2019 at 10:50 pm #223175

    Yes, more likely, yes

    Jamiebaby95
    Jamiebaby95
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    October 15, 2019 at 1:34 pm #223447

    Be honest about your feelings with him

    MidnightRain
    MidnightRain
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    October 17, 2019 at 10:02 pm #223653

    He definitely has feelings for you, but is probably hesitant to say them aloud. If you’d like to have a relationship with this guy and have feelings for him as well, you could try hinting that you like him too.

    HeatherT
    HeatherT
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    October 18, 2019 at 9:07 am #223670

    Thank you for all your feedback! I have never had to deal with a situation like this, usually I like a guy and they like me and its all up front and in the open. But with the whole death thing it has really made me wonder and second guess myself. I guess I better get my feelings straight and have an honest conversation.

    He even bought us tickets for a movie in February……so I guess that is the sign I needed that he isn’t going anywhere any time soon.

    Italiana86
    Italiana86
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    October 20, 2019 at 6:22 pm #223747
    Reply To: Can't figure out if he is interested in me…..after the death of my boyfriend

    First off, I’m so sorry about your boyfriend. I know you said you were breaking up, but it’s never easy to lose someone you were that close with.

    As for this guy, it definitely sounds like he’s into you. Like some other people said, it also sounds like he’s a little insecure. It sounds like he doesn’t think he’s good enough for you for some reason. If you’re into him, you’ll likely need to reassure him and let him know that you’re interested. On the flip side, if you’re still looking for something casual, you may need to make sure he knows that’s still the case if he is developing feelings for you.